life update ’19.

Hello everybody.

Hope you’re doing well.

Loooooooooooooooong time so see huh?

(Please consider the letter ‘O’ in the previous sentence as a level of excitement)

Why excitement you ask? Of course I am writing a blog after so long. Also the energy level is 100% right now since I am writing this early in the morning. I’ve always been a morning person and super hyper in the morning. I alone know how it feels to go back to sleep after the suhoor (a meal had before the dawn when you fast in the month of Ramadan).

Today’s blog is just a small update on why was I missing here. The month of April was no less than a machine run. It was a power packed month with a lot of travel, family visits and my domain name decides to expire. Now when it comes to technical stuff I rather quit but leaning technical terms is never in my book of dictionary.

I was a confused head and had no idea where to turn my head. Also for the fact my blogs traffic dropped like crazy. It was all in one go and I kind of felt very disappointing. I’ve never been a person who needs motivation to write blogs but at the moment I needed some. I believe Experimented and experienced for the self-realization. That’s the reason I knew I should take a break. Its totally fine to take break in life because quitting is never an option.

I don’t earn from my blogs yet but the fact that I wasn’t regular and consistent putting content here, kind of ached my heart. Social media is a great influencer. It can give you motivation to touch sky or demotivate enough to lose hope. It is your call how you want to take it.

Initially when I started blogging I kind of had a twin side towards this platform. I was doubting whether it is okay to write blogs, be a social media influencer or endorse brands for collaboration. There was always a debate happening inside me to do or not to. There was obviously no win.

but, Alhamdulillah there was a turning point.

I now believe that this is my work and until I am doing it the right way without hurting the community guidelines that I have set upon myself, I am in the right path. There’s no looking back.

Life is like a see saw. It goes up and down. You are all happy in the air when your side of the see saw goes up. You see the sky, you see your dreams, and you want to stay up forever.

Then wussh goes the see saw, alas! You are on the ground. You feel disappointed, you feel low, you feel there is no way, you feel like quitting, you see the opposite person enjoying the heights.

That’s exactly life. If you can enjoy up in the air why not when the see saw hits the ground. Trust me after the night comes the beautiful day.

Life isn’t guaranteed. Life gives opportunity, but it’s you who decide which suits best for you. Life gives dreams, but it’s you who make the dream meet the reality.

That’s it guys!

I hope this bought at least a slight positives in your life. It surely did for me and hoping the same for you.

That’s it for now.

Until we meet again,

Stick around.

Being a housewife.

Hello everybody.

Hope you’re having an amazing day.

We women are born multitaskers and multitasking gets a promotion when you become a housewife. A women who stays at home after she is married is called a housewife.

I always believed that being a housewife didn’t contribute as an important factor in life. I felt they are just like my mother or my aunt or anyone who is married and takes care of the house, whats the big deal I imagined.

I’ve been married since 2013 and I am a housewife since 5 years. I so regret the imagination that I did in the previous paragraph about housewives when I was younger of course. I deeply know and believe that no one can underestimate the things a housewife can do!

Taking care of the house, kids and the HUSBAND is not an easy task. Lets start with the main responsibility, THE HOUSE.

From the time I get up from the bed responsibility starts hitting right away. To make up the bed, the perfect tea, the breakfast, the lunch that has to be packed(all from scratch), the dirty dishes, the laundry( washing, drying, and sorting ), cleaning, dusting, moping, cleaning the bathrooms etc! The words are shorter and quicker but the actual task keeps me occupied for the first half of my day. There is no day off where I can skip any one of the above. Even if I skip one or two there is nothing called a holiday in a housewife’s life.

The second responsibility the child/children. Taking care of your kid is even more complicated than the house chores. They are very tricky to handle. They can either wake up in a good mood in the morning or a cranky mood that runs throughout the day. The demands that they make for food is unpredictable. When you don’t have dosa batter in the refrigerator that day they decide to have dosas. When the bread expires that’s when they want a sandwich. The oranges that were there in stock and are getting rotten nobody cares to eat it because it looks dirty. Imagine convincing your child in these situations and that’s how a housewife’s life is when it comes to taking care of them. The tantrum they throw when they don’t want a shower or a desired dress after the shower and taking them to bed for afternoon naps is something that every housewife will relate.

The third and the most important factor for a housewife is to take care of her HUSBAND. He can come home with a grumpy face or a happy face. If he comes home in a grumpy face and youre PMSing that day I am sure youll end up having a big fight. If he comes back from work with a happy face then you may go out for dinner that night. A hungry husband is forever angry. I’ve literally gone through this experience of hungry and angry husband. If they don’t like a particular food a housewife will end up not making it even if that particular food is her absolute favorite.

From taking that stain from his favorite shirt to keeping his wardrobe organized, the responsibility is mine (a housewife).

So a housewife is 24*7 on duty where in there will be guests coming over without prior notice, a kid can fall sick, a husband may have stress at work, cooking is necessary for survival, mood swings of women etc.

Yet another common factor in a life of a housewife is “staying at moms”. No words can explain how it feels when you’re going to your mums and the pleasure that’s achieved has no explanation. That’s the only time I believe when a housewife takes a break.

A housewife shouldn’t be considered minor than any working woman. She has chosen to be a housewife for the sake of her family. It’s high time to respect and appreciate for the work she does!

A woman can take care of anyone and everything except for herself. I think self-care is a must in a women’s life in general. Pamper yourself, order some good food, drink plenty of water, be fit, buy something for yourself, wear good clothes and be happy.

Always remember,

Happiness is a choice.

That’s it for now guys,

Until we meet again

Stick around.

My Instagram life.

Hello everyone.

Hope you’re doing well.

Yet another interesting topic of my life.

Being an extreme introvert and having an Instagram profile with 2000 followers is in itself a big deal. Without further delay lets just flip to my first page of my Instagram life.

I was following a lot of bloggers then, who had their own website where they would write something. So when I first decided to write blogs I did open my new page on WordPress and changed my personal Instagram account to a public profile. With a lot of researches online and without any human help! And thus joined the tribe. I remember I had almost 300 followers then and when I changed my profile to a public account my followers list increased to 450. So basically I started with 450 followers. And I actually thought I don’t have to do much and waited for a 1000 followers. It took me a year to complete 2000 followers, like how silly was I!😜

Little did I knew what was coming my way? It took me quite a time to understand Instagram.

There is engagement, there are numerous giveaway to increase followers, there is profile visits, there are insights, there are campaigns, collaborations and Instagram suggests the best time to post, best day to post and what not! Not to forget INSTAGRAM ALGORITHIM. I never knew about this, I thought a blogger has to write blogs, post few pictures, post stories and done! I don’t have words to explain there is so much more to it.

What I really enjoyed about Instagram then is about the collaboration that I did with few brands and felt really good that the brands trusts my work. And who doesn’t love hampers and gifts right? A did get a slight work pressure from the brands even before the deadlines. And later on whenever there were collaboration I was so worried that I started focusing and stressing more whether I will be able to satisfy the brand with my work. I did quite well with all of the collaboration, Alhamdulillah.

I started loving instagram and took all kinds of effort to keep my instagram feed good-looking! I loved the responses I got from my followers about my blogs and that really motivated. I had a lot of friends and family who checked on me on a regular basis, I must say I had an amazing bunch of people in my life. Also there were a few of my fellow bloggers whom I would always look up to whenever I had to clear my mind about anything related to social media or my blogs. I am forever grateful to those friends of mine whom I’ve never met in real life but plays a prominent role.

Another major important thing about my instagram life is about my constant supporter and a critic that I always look up to, my better half. The first glimpse of my post that goes up in the grid, every blog that I publish, the collaboration posts and stories are closely approved by him. He is the invisible person for all my social affairs. Alhamdulillah!

The main motive for me to be active on instagram is to grow my audience. I know instagram is not permanent until there is some other app taking over it like that of orkut or facebook. I am more concerned and determined about my website and that’s what matters the most for me. In order to grow my audience I need to promote my blogs through instagram and facebook.

Sometimes I feel that people already assume that you’re happy with the flow of Instagram and often forget to ask how am I doing! Because they see my social media updates and believe it!

To be real honest whatever I share ,that is not what’s actually happening in my real life. It’s just 1/4th of it!🙂

If you see a picture of a delicious food that I post don’t be fooled, may be that’s the old picture. I may post it because I miss it! I still feel good whenever I am not judged on the basis of my Instagram story! I love sharing positivity through my profile even I am in the worst mood. And believe me that is more important!

It’s sometimes okay to ask how am I doing and trust me I’ll happily answer!

I hope all goes well with my intentions in shaa allah(if allah wills)

If you feel like doing a little help for me

Introduce my instagram page and my blogs to your friends and family.

Since my niche is more of women stuff I’ll be glad to have more of female followers in the list!

https://www.instagram.com/aashiqaraweez/

That’s it for now guys,

Until we meet again

Stick around.

a lady driver!

Hello everyone.

Hope you had an amazing weekend.

This is an unexpected topic that’s come up here.

I recently started driving and there were few strange things that happened. I thought it would be great to share here and safeguard this in my memory book.

Driving was never on my list until my husband pushed me in it. The main reason I never wanted to drive is that, we woman multi task. even if we are doing a lot of work our mind run from topics to topics. driving is something where you should focus only on driving and I believed that a multi task woman like me will ultimately fail. So I thought it’s never my cup of tea.

But am glad I stepped out of my comfort zone to learn something that eventually makes a person independent.

I took a 15 days driving classes at my native and got adjusted to driving very quickly. It was all good until I had my teacher next to me and a big placard which had a red colored L board in it. But as soon as I started driving a normal car it was all different. One thing that’s common when you initially drive is that you will constantly hear honking even if you’re driving good or normal. It seems every vehicle wants to overtake your vehicle and driving feels as if it’s just giving others the way.

I never tried to drive faster only for the reason that I had to change gears and slowing down was forever tricky. Not changing gears felt that I am dragging the car with all of the power and the car dint wanted to come ;). Stopping a car was my favorite and I did it very well Alhamdulillah.

I kind of got confident in driving and I thought I am an expert already. Little did I knew what was coming my way? Bangalore traffic!

Pity to the person who thought driving was easy. Anyone who thinks driving is easy please visit Bangalore and meet the traffic. is it just clutch and brake? there is more to it.!

TBH, I appreciate every person who can drive on Bangalore traffic. Like there are vehicles coming from all sides and every person who is driving will make sure they honk so that everyone knows their car is coming. I first thought all the motor bikers do not know to ride properly. Then I felt the auto rickshaws that came in any direction destroying lane should be banned. Then I started hating the cabs, like the cabs never ever driven properly. But gradually understood that I am a new driver and it took me a while to understand that every person has some destination and they do not care about your destination.

Another thing that freaked me out is that every time there is a vehicle behind my car and they obviously start honking if I am going slowly or they want to go ahead of me. As soon as I give them the way every person who is overtaking my car will make sure that he catches a glimpse on who is driving. And when the person sees me driving it’s like there is a satisfaction on their face that their mind has won because they’ve already guessed that it’s a lady driver.

I’ve slowly got a hold of it. It feels really good that I know to drive. It’s felt tricky at the beginning but gradually I feel good at it. I still get a tiny heart attack when I see a huge vehicle coming my way. I’ve heard all kind of continuous honks when my car stopped in the middle of the road. I am still scared of overtaking a vehicle. I’ve seen frustration on people’s faces.

But what is important is the constant encouragement I get and a little push when I back out.

That’s my driving story!

What’s yours?

I would love to know!

I know there are a lot of driving related words here and I am sure every person who knows driving already, relate to this.

That’s it for now guys.

Until we meet again,

Stick around.