hope you’re doing good.
Todays topic is very interesting because it deals with friendship. So whenever we sit back and think about Friendship it would be about our school friends, college friends, tuition friends, neighbour friends and so on.
But there is no mention of parents as friends. Because we have lived life that parents were never included in our friend list. The main reason for this there was a huge gap between parents and kids when we were growing up. They were always considered a one step ahead and kids and parents were never on the same boat.
We as a 90s kid always wanted our parents to be friends.
I think we are the only generation who wanted to be friends with our parents as a kid and trying to be friends with our kids as a parent. I feel strange and bad that we are the struggling generation who is not at ease even when they were kid and even when they are a parent.
when to be a friend.
So as I mentioned earlier we are not at ease and we are trying our level best to be friends with our kids.
The most important thing here is it’s not and never an overnight process where you and your kid becomes best of friends or bFF. Usually parents tend to make mistake. Some parents think they should be friends with their kids when they reach teenage.
Teenage is a period where kids change a lot and that’s never a time to start a friendship with your children. If you’ve ignored all their silly things when they were kids and trying to get all attention when they reach their teenage, then it will not sound good.
So the best time for you to become friends with your kids is when they are small. When theyre small they are more of mama kid ie they want to be with parents all the time unlike a grownup kid. They want attention, support, love, laugh and everything from their dad and mom. That is a very good time to enroll yourself in the list of your kids friendship.
How to be friends with your kids.
it’s about the quality. If you’re sitting next to your kid and enjoying your phone or tv then its never called a quality time.when you are focused on your kids play or the drawing session or the little talk session they have with you, even if it’s for 15min that’s more like a quality time. The more you build the quality time with them the more chances of becoming good friends later on.
involving them in every matter. Even if they’re small try to involve them like choosing the dress of yours, asking what need to be cooked for dinner, or any daily chores. Also try to involve them even in the big decisions that s made in the house. Try to ask permission when you’re using or taking something from your kids wardrobe. Kids learn from their parents ultimately imitating them in daily living.
Another important thing is talking to your kids. Being a mom of a daughter I know how long she can go with the talks. Even if its stories or rhymes or the life incidents (on repeat mode) listen to them. You may get bored listening to the repeated stories but that’s okay. As a parent we have had sleepless nights and repeated stories are much better than sleepless nights right?
I’ve noticed that as they grow when they are exposed to more of life they start sharing less.
The one reason that they share less as they grow up is obviously the interest you give your child. If you’ve scored out of out in listening to their kids version of talk session and never ignored their talk, then you may not find a day when they don’t want to share their talk sessions with you at whatever age they are in.
It’s very important to be friends with them.
Its one of the easiest way to be connected with the kids and up-bring them.
Also never forget that at the end you are ultimately a parent and you know the limitations of a kid. It’s very delicate relationship to deal with. Every relationship has boundaries. Try to cover up with the boundaries and enjoy the little friend zone with your kids.
Every kid is different, every parent is different and every upbringing of a child is different. You know your kid better so adjust the consistency of your love, and have a great friendship with your kids.
This is purely according to my personal experience and thoughts.
Thats it for now
until we meet again,